DIOSA 002: Tha Dalai Mama
Have you ever met a person...
that reads your whole life and leaves you with your jaw on the floor? Well to me, that's Destiny a.k.a Tha Dalai Mama, b.k.a the Oracle Goddess. I just made that up - but you'll agree with me once you're done stalking her on Twitter - where she constantly drops spiritual gems and offers her intuitive services. Although I haven't had the pleasure to sip tea and read in silence with her in person (you know, introverted shit), she is one of those people. Before you read any further - watch this video then listen to this podcast (have a notepad and pen ready) and experience for yourself what I mean.
Okay, now that you're back I'll continue fan-girling.
Destiny said so many things in that Live Shadow Workshop that had me in a flurry of trying to snap my fingers in agreement, saying, "GIRLLLL my life" more times than I can count and writing down as much as I could...as if replay didn't exist. And I look forward to listening to the newest Bad & Bruja podcast she co-host with @ashbestos and @ladiearth because they don't hold back and it feels like you're hanging out with your bestfriends. She's smart, witty, relatable and can read people like an open book - which is intuitive magick at its finest.
BM: TELL US ABOUT YOURSELF. WHERE ARE YOU FROM? WHERE ARE YOU GOING? WHAT DO YOU FEEL IS YOUR PURPOSE IN THIS LIFE?
TDM: I’m from all over… born in Baltimore, but my parents’ jobs had me moving a lot. I’ve been living in Austin, TX for the last 5 years but I’m about to relocate back to the DMV and I’m super excited about that. I can’t say exactly where I’m going, but I know I’m going far lol. Sounds cliche but this year has been really eye opening for me, I’ve been traveling a lot and I know this is just the beginning… I feel my purpose is to be an example of spiritual autonomy for others. I’m pretty much just here to do “me” and to give the world a chance to see me, so they can do them.
BM: DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A BRUJA? HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THAT TERM/LABEL?
TDM: To be completely honest, I don’t like labels… I consider myself to be many things, all things, and just using one term to classify myself doesn’t feel comfortable lol. The podcast name came to us at the height of Bad and Boujee’s popularity and we knew it would be catchy!
BM: I'VE SEEN YOU TWEET AND MENTION ON YOUR BAD & BRUJA PODCAST THAT YOU ARE A VEGAN. TELL US ABOUT THE PATH THAT LED YOU TO VEGANISM. FOR THOSE WHO EAT MEAT AND ARE NOT TRYING TO HEAR ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE, WHATS THE ONE THING YOU WOULD TELL THEM TO MAKE YOUR CASE FOR VEGANISM?
TDM: I used to eat everythingggggg. I love food. I love(d) meat and cheese and dairy and all that. I had a health crisis a few years ago that, upon independent research, I discovered could be cured through a vegan diet along with other lifestyle changes. It was really hard to convert to veganism initially and the first time I tried, I made myself MORE sick because I didn’t detox properly. I advise people do their research. I quit animal products cold-turkey because I was emotionally motivated, but not everyone can do this. Some need a more gradual process… you absolutely CAN be an unhealthy vegan. Detox specialists and nutritionists are important to ensure you’re doing this safely. For the die-hard meat and dairy eaters, my biggest case is that you must understand that meat is DEAD energy… dairy and processed foods are DEAD energy. There are no nutrients… the whole “where do you get your protein?!” argument is just ignorance… If you’re dedicated to spiritual growth, understand that what you put in your body MATTERS. If you consume death, what do you think you will experience?
BM: FOR SOME, NATAL CHARTS CAN BE OVERWHELMING. WHEN TRYING TO UNDERSTAND YOUR CHART, WHERE SHOULD SOMEONE START?
TDM: I would suggest getting a natal chart consultation by me, or someone else you resonate with more, to give you a starting point. Having a real conversation with someone about your planets, signs, and aspects helps a lot because websites and books are helpful but can be hard to understand without help. Youtube is a great resource for me because I really don’t like reading lmao. I prefer to listen to the information through conversation. From there, I would suggest first getting a really good understanding of the PLANETS first, they are the foundation of astrology so if you understand planetary energies you will understand the signs and houses a lot easier.
BM: WHAT'S THE NUMBER ONE QUESTION YOUR CLIENTS WANT ANSWERED WHEN THEY COME TO YOU FOR A READING? WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS?
TDM: “What is my purpose? Am I on the right track in my life?” Everyone wants to know why they’re here… everyone wants to know if they’re aligned with their purpose. Most times if you’re asking this question, what you’re currently doing ISN’T working and changes need to be made. Astrology is a really great tool to get insight on this so I always recommend that people look into their natal chart as it helps lay out your potential… the energies you resonate with most and the energies you don’t. My answer is always, “follow your heart and soul”. What resonates with us on a SOUL level will always give us direct insight on what we came here to do…
BM: WHAT ARE SOME WAYS THAT WE CAN CUT TIES OR LET GO OF PEOPLE/ENERGIES/SITUATIONS THAT NO LONGER SERVE USE?
TDM: Energy shifts, like I mentioned before. When YOU shift YOUR frequency, your physical reality will reflect those shifts. So if you’re still dealing with things that no longer serve you, on some level you still haven’t shifted your energy. Actual tools would include sea salt baths, cord cutting rituals/meditations, black candles and black crystals. Rituals for this should be personal to you so I won’t give actual techniques but those are definitely good tools to use. You have to really be ready to move on otherwise all the work will be in vain. Be honest about where you are.
BM: THIS MEME HAD ME ROLLING BUT ALSO BROUGHT UP SOMETHING THAT MANY OF US WHO ARE "TAPPED-IN" EXPERIENCE WITH OUR FAMILIES AND FRIENDS. HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS WHO ARE LOOKING AT YOU CRAZY FOR BELIEVING IN THE THINGS YOU DO? AND HOW DO YOU WALK THAT FINE LINE BETWEEN BEING RESPECTFUL AND GOING OFF ON FAMILY WHO ATTACK YOUR BELIEFS?
TDM: I let them go. This has been one of the hardest things for me personally because I really take my friendships and family relationships seriously. My loved ones are important to me. But the reason why it took me so long to fully embrace my spiritual path is because I was afraid of what they would think. I had to let go of the fear that they would reject me or not love me if I followed my spirit. I’ve had situations where I’ve felt the judgement of my family about what I do, and out of respect for them I just remove my energy completely. I won’t argue with them because it hurts, but I’m quick to be petty and debate people I don’t know lol. It’s hard… at some point you just have to realize that your loved ones will still love you even though they may not accept you. I have so much love in my life that it doesn’t hurt me anymore at this point. Of course I would love their support and encouragement but I don’t need it, and not having those things won’t stop me from this work.
BM: WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO HAS AN AFFINITY TO LIGHT WORK AND DOESN'T QUITE KNOW WHERE TO START? HOW CAN THEY TAP INTO THEIR MAGICK?
TDM: Shadow work. This is a vague description, many things fall under the category of shadow work: past life regression, subconscious regression, inner child regression, tantra, etc. You can’t do light work without first tapping into the darkness. You can’t give light to the world without first uncovering your OWN light, which exists in and comes from darkness. Start in the realm of the unknown and bring awareness to it… that’s the best way I can explain it.
BM: DO YOU USE CRYSTALS IN YOUR RITUAL WORK? IF SO, HOW DO YOU USE THEM? WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE CRYSTAL AND WHY?
TDM: Yes! I’ve always loved crystals, since I was a kid. I treat them like companions. We sleep together, bathe together, I carry them with me most times. I put them in my water to charge it with the energy of the crystals. I talk to them… the best way to get the most out of crystals is to recognize that they are sentient beings, they are ALIVE just like plants and animals and us. It’s a relationship… you don’t just buy them and own them, they have to choose you too. I love lapis lazuli, a stone for the throat chakra, it helps give you confidence in speaking your truth (it’s got little bits of pyrite in it, good for the solar plexus as well). I also LOVE black obsidian; it’s great for absorbing and repelling negative energies. It’s super grounding and I always feel safe when I have it with me.
BM: HOW DID YOU USE/CHANNEL THE ENERGY FROM THE TOTAL SOLAR ECLIPSE ON AUG 21ST?
TDM: I didn’t do anything for the eclipse lol it was a new moon phase as well and those drain me like crazy. I just went into receptive mode… I let myself rest to take in as much of the energy as I could. For intense planetary events like this, in my opinion the best thing to do is nothing. Just listen… just watch, just feel.
BM: YOU KNOW THAT SAYING, HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE? IS IT NOT ALSO TRUE THAT HURT PEOPLE HELP PEOPLE? HOW HAVE YOU TURNED HURT IN YOUR LIFE INTO HELPING OTHERS?
TDM: Hurt people who are still hurt, hurt people. Hurt people who have transcended and alchemized their pain help people. I’ve had to do a lot of shadow work, deep digging into my subconscious, into my childhood programs, fears, all that dark stuff to release these things. You first have to become aware of and acknowledge the pain, then accept that it exists, then you give it love/compassion, then you forgive… yourself or others. Then you release. I have to do this over and over and over again to be able to objectively speak to people about their issues. Most of us have gone through similar situations and we relate to each other more than we know.
BM: DO YOU PRAY/CALL UPON YOUR ANCESTORS FOR GUIDANCE? ANYONE IN PARTICULAR?
TDM: I don’t call them by name, I just invoke their presence by literally saying something like “I invite my ancestors, guides, angels, etc into this space for ___” I don’t want to limit my resources by being too specific.
BM: HOW DO YOU USE YOUR SPIRITUALITY TO COMBAT WHAT SEEMS TO BE A CONSTANT ASSAULT ON WOMEN'S RIGHTS AND BODIES IN THIS COUNTRY? ON THAT SAME NOTE, HOW ARE YOU COPING IN TRUMP'S AMERICA?
TDM: I make men submit to me lol. I’m laughing but I’m serious. I don’t tolerate hypermasculinity (or hyperfemininity for that matter) and I call it out when I see it. I used to be really passive (hyperfeminine) and I’d let a lot of toxic behavior from men slide in my presence. Once I was able to see and become aware of my full power as GODDESS all that shit stopped. And those types of men slowly disappeared on their own. An energy shift has to occur for certain types of interactions to stop happening. I saw my power and all of a sudden, so did everyone else. Men included. Fuck Trump. I don’t give him any of my energy. Again, it’s an energy shift. I live my life like he doesn’t exists, and the problems that he’s brought don’t exist. It’s been working so far. This is a sensitive topic for a lot of people. I’ve gotten a lot of pushback for this attitude and have been called “privileged” to not have had to deal with the hate and discrimination that’s come from his presidency. I just look at it like, yea I know what’s going on “out there”, but that shit doesn’t exist in my universe. I make the rules here and those problems aren’t a part of them.